Get the Most from Yourself – Chapter 20

In previous issues of Computer Times, we printed a 26-month series from the book titled Get The MOST from Yourself, by Dr. Terry Kibiloski.  This is the 21st article of that series.

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The Larger Human System

The human system is similar to the personal computer system, with three major parts – the body (hardware), the mind (software), and the spirit, or soul, (user).

We are spirits having a human experience!

Image of Body, Mind, Spirit chart (copyright Dr. Terry Kibiloski, 1986)

To maintain the human system it’s important to understand:

  • Body specialists (doctors) help maintain our human body.
  • Mind specialists (psychologists) help maintain our human mind.
  • Spirit, or soul, specialists (priests, ministers, rabbis, etc.) teach us how to effectively use our body and mind. The ideal teacher is the Creator of our body and mind.

If you can understand the similarity between the computer system and the human system, you are on your way to getting the MOST from yourself. Let’s now look at some important principles.

  • As the computer operator uses the hardware and software to have a computing experience, our spirit uses the body and mind to have a human experience
  • Our overall health depends upon a harmonious relationship between our body, mind and spirit
  • Our human system seeks harmony and ease, not dis-ease
  • We are spirits having a human experience.

Last month, we showed you how personal harmony is critical to our success as human beings. This month, we show you how your personal human system relates to the larger human system.

Franklin D. Roosevelt was speaking of harmony for the larger human system when he said “If civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships – the ability of all peoples, of all kinds, to live together, in the same world at peace.” Peter E. Terzick referred to this harmony as brotherhood when he said “It is the wisdom of Lincoln and the warmth of Gandhi. It is the humility of Jesus, the humbleness of Muhammed, and the humanitarianism of Confucius.”

Our overall success depends upon the harmony (love) we have with other human beings. To understand this important principle, we only need to compare the ill feelings we get from a scorn, or a rude remark, to the positive power of a smile, or a hug. When we express love through a hug, or a smile, we feel the same positive power as the receiver of that hug or smile. We create a WIN-WIN situation. We win, and the receiver wins.

It’s important to create WIN-WIN situations in every aspect of our lives, both personal and business. These positive relationships help us maintain good physical, mental, and spiritual health, and are essential to our overall success.

Recent studies suggest our thoughts (motives) can dramatically affect those around us. Have you ever been in a situation where you could “feel” the tension without anyone mentioning it, or where you could feel the love without a word being spoken? This is a common feeling.

While we don’t understand how this works, we do experience it and see it happening around us. Animals and children are keenly aware of the thoughts (motives) of others. Animals instinctively sense our feelings of fear and love. Children are drawn toward loving people.

Think about the people you know who either generate tension wherever they go, or simply glow with love and kindness. No words need to be spoken for the feeling to permeate the situation. Then think of the way these two very different people are treated. Which one is the winner? Which one would you consider successful?

Just as our body needs food to stay healthy, our spirit needs love. It is the key to happiness and success. When love is lacking in our lives, very little is possible in the way of healthy relationships, self fulfillment, and overall success. When love is overflowing in our lives, everything is possible.

Just as our physical cells need to be in harmony with other cells around them to stay healthy, we, as human cells in the overall body of humankind, need to be in harmony with the other humans around us. If we are not in harmony with others around us, we contribute to a growing disease that can destroy us and the overall body of humankind. It is a very simple principle that affects everything in our universe. Harmony (love) is essential for overall success of the human system, whether it is our own body as a human system, or the greater human system that encompasses all people.

The greatest philosophers, religious leaders, and even musicians like the Beatles have been trying to tell us this throughout the ages. Do you remember the songs “All you need is love” and “Give peace a chance”? These songs, and many like them, tried to impress on us that love is essential for us to succeed as a person, and as a human race.

The bumper sticker that asks “Have you hugged your kids today?” is packed with wisdom. It is not just the physical hug that is important, it is the love behind the hug that will transform both you and your child. I suggest that all the crime bills in the world will not transform young criminals as fast as sincere hugs, in many shapes and forms. A hug does not have to be physical. It can be in the form of a smile, or a kind word, or a friendly gesture, or a kind deed. I firmly believe we can transform the world with “hugs.” During the peace process in the Middle East, it was encouraging to see world leaders hug each other as well as shake hands.

A few years ago, I decided it was much more important to give my daughter “hugs” at Christmas than to give her “things.” So, I began giving her one full day of my time as a gift for the holidays. Anything she wants to do with me on that day is acceptable. It is amazing how important that day has become to her. She carefully plans it out for weeks.

The most important gift you can give someone is a loving “hug,” from your spirit. This can truly change the world one person at a time, beginning with YOU.

Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND.

Much more next month . . . Get the Most from Yourself – Chapter 21

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